Top Ten Things I Want More of from YA Romances

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  1. LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS. Oh my god, I really really want more books which explore long distance relationships. Positive portrayals would be especially nice!
  2. Kinda related to #1: Relationships which develop through online and/or epistolary forms of communication. So letters or emails. Texts might work but they might be a bit too short. Anyway, I just want characters who fall in love despite not seeing each other in real life, or at least not seeing each other that often. Crazy by Amy Reed and Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli are two great examples of relationships developing through emails!! I LOVE BOTH OF THESE BOOKS A LOT.
  3. Obviously, more development in general would be great. I think part of the reason why relationships that develop through emails can work so well is because they definitely have to DEVELOP. They have to reveal things about themselves to the other person in these emails or else these emails would have no content at all. So it's not just two characters who meet each other and swoon a lot over the other person immediately and suddenly they're like OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU even though they know nothing about each other.
  4. More diverse romances. I want more diversity in books in general obviously but this particularly applies to romances. I wanna see more Asian girls and guys in romances! There's a very noticeable lack of them in contemporary. Yes, I will definitely read Jenny Han's To All the Boys I've Loved Before. I bought it on the Kindle recently. Got any other recommendations?
  5. MORE KISSES. More steamy scenes. More sexy flirting and more characters who obviously enjoy sex and really want to have sex with each other. I just find sometimes I'm reading a YA book and I'm just like... are you even physically attracted to him/her?? I'M NOT FEELING THIS AT ALL.
  6. Polyamory. I want characters who love and have a relationship with more than one person at the same time and recognise that that can work and be a good thing as long as there's communication and honesty and trust! I hear Hannah Moskowitz is writing a polyamorous YA and I'm REALLY EXCITED. I've also heard that there's one YA series that apparently ends in polyamory but it's kind of spoilery to say which series it is so... Um. Not saying. Plus I haven't read it myself yet.
  7. REINCARNATION. I WANT MORE REINCARNATION BOOKS ABOUT CHARACTERS WHO LOVE EACH OTHER IN ALL PAST LIVES AND ALL FUTURE LIVES AND ahhhhhh. I have so many feelings about reincarnation. The Next Together by Lauren James is coming out this September and it is about reincarnation!!! I AM SO EXCITED.
  8. But even though I love these epic sprawling SOULMATES FOREVER romances, I also love more realistic romances that acknowledge that it's probably not going to be forever. If the characters are in high school, I really want more self-aware characters who don't just think, "WE'RE GOING TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER" but who love each other a lot and want to be together but who realise that they don't know what the future holds. They might worry about it a lot, or they might not.
  9. Related to this, I want more break-ups. Break-ups of relationships that really meant something, that take characters a while to get over. Usually when there's a break-up it happens prior or at the very beginning of the book and/or the characters always seem to get over it magically quickly. Where are the break-ups that take characters the whole book and beyond to get over?
  10. Books which portray established relationships would be great too. Couples who have been together already for a while before the start of the book, and the honeymoon period has faded and they're starting to face the real problems of staying together rather than simply getting together. Because there's loads to explore there!

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17 thoughts on “Top Ten Things I Want More of from YA Romances

  1. I think you're the first one who've selected this version of the topic.
    I'd love to see some Asians in YA books!I get tired of reading about Americans all time.As an Asian myself,I think it would be easier for me to relate to an Asian character more.
    Well,I haven't read any polyamory yet,but I've heard that the concept is seen in Raven Boys.I like to read controversial concepts like these in books.They give me a more open mind.
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      Yes, I just want more Asian guys and girls having cute romances in YA books! IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK. ):

      Ahhhh, Raven Boys. I MUST READ IT. I hadn't really heard about any polyamory elements in Raven Boys though. I just Googled it and all I could find was people wishing there was polyamory in that series but knowing that it won't happen, haha. I have actually never yet read any Stiefvater but I bought The Scorpio Races the other day so I will finally read this author that everyone else seems to love!

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      In Don't Let Me Go by J. H. Trumble, which I loved, the characters go long distance for a while. But other than that I can't think of a book I loved which had a long distance relationship.

      YES SERIOUSLY. I know the initial period of love when you're all swooning over each other is great to read about but I want couples who have been together for enough time that they're really comfortable in front of each other and they know each other too well and they start having to deal with the problem of feeling like they're taking each other for granted or not doing enough exciting things together anymore. There's lots of potential for conflict and interesting storylines!

  2. Books with long distance relationships that don't end in complete misery would be absolutely amazing! When there's a book where this type of relationship is portrayed is almost always ends up not working out and just be general chaos - at least in my experience.

    Polyamory. Yes! There's a serious lack of books that features these kinds of relationships!

    Your last point about established relationships is something I wholeheartedly agree on, and really want more of. I think it's something you see often in adult fiction, but it's definitely not something that you come across in YA. But it would be awesome to see a YA book where you have an established couple who are getting ready to "face the world" together - if that makes sense.

    Awesome list Cynthia - I really enjoyed reading it, and I think you have some really great points! :)
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      I haven't read many books that deal with long distance! I think the only ones I can think of are The Geography of You and Me by Jennifer E Smith (I didn't like it) and Don't Let Me Go by J. H. Trumble, where long distance doesn't really work for the characters at all, haha. Soooo excited for Robin Talley's next book which will feature a long distance relationship!

      Yeah, to have a teenage couple who have already been together for a year or two having to decide whether it's worth staying together when they go off to different colleges/unis or even when they go to the same college/uni and start meeting loads of new people and going through lots of change themselves!! That would be so fab. (ROBIN TALLEY'S BOOK ALSO MIGHT FIT THIS SO I'M JUST SO RIDICULOUSLY EXCITED. Though I don't know how long the couple have been together been they go off to different colleges.)

  3. REINCARNATION. THAT SOUNDS SO FREAKING COOL. I WOULD LOVE TO READ SOMETHING LIKE THAT because that would be super amazing. I also agree that there should be more romances that deal with long distance. BECAUSE IT SHOULD BE EXPLORED. Since it is a pretty hard topic, and hard romance to develop over time. BUT I HAVE FAITH THAT IT CAN BE DONE
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  4. I think your list is really different and that does really nicely! I agree with some but I also don't agree with others.

    Personally [because of my religion], the whole polygamy thing never really sat well with me. I always respect people and what they do, but I know that I personally would not read about it.
    Also, from crying friends and ben and jerry's, I always have a love hate relationship with long distance ones. I've never seen one where they actually work. It just seems like a bittersweet romance and while I LOVE getting all the feels, I don't know if I want to subject myself to that kind of torture [I'm the type that feels things HARD]

    But I'm ALL FOR Diversity. I want more of it SO BAD. Also, I watched a movie called Cloud Atlas and that sort of deals with Reincarnation and since I loved that, the idea of it being in a book is so cool. I can't believe I never thought of it!
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      Haha, I'm in what I call a part-time long distance relationship where sometimes we practically live together and sometimes we're half the world apart and it's worked out fab so far. It really depends on your personalities and circumstances. I've heard a lot of long distance success stories, just as I've heard a lot of long distance failure stories. I personally am really into the dynamic of how a relationship works when it's long distance, so I would just love to read more books about it.

      I've read Cloud Atlas! I haven't seen the movie but I loved the book. You should give the book a go if you loved the movie! The book is so epic. It's one of the few things I've read that deals with reincarnation, but I've always been into the idea of reincarnation since even before I read any books about it.

  5. Brilliant list, Cynthia! I think Daria Snadowsky's Anatomy of a Boyfriend and Anatomy of a Single Girl tick a few boxes from this list. Not strictly romance, but the Burn for Burn seris by Jenny Han & Siobhan Vivian also has an Asian main character. I can't say for definite as I haven't read it yet, but Love, Lucy by April Lindner might involve a long distance romance and online and/or epistolary letters.

    Have you tried many New Adult romances? They tend to be quite steamy. I love Tammara Webber's novels, because there's more to them, where as I find most NA tends to be just about the sexy times.

    And I think that's all I came up with. I love the idea of relationships based on writing. It's not a romance, but my best mate lives in Belfast and I live in London, so we have texts/emails/occasional letters, so it would be great to see something similar in a book. Really loved this list! You thought of things I didn't! :)
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      Yeah, I know about Burn for Burn and it looks really interesting and I wanna read that as well! I'll try To All the Boys I've Loved Before first so I can see if I like Han's writing. I do lament the lack of Asian characters in YA romances in particular because I feel like you do at least get some Asian characters in sort of coming-of-age stories without much romance, but I just wanna see a straight-up cute typical high school love story but starring an Asian character (or two) instead!

      Nope, I still haven't read any NA even though I keep meaning to. I am thinking of starting with Leah Raeder's Unteachable since I plan to read her next book, Black Iris, when it comes out and everyone seems to love her. I should also check out Tammara Webber!

      Yeah, my boyfriend and I are part-time long distance since I study in England but live in Hong Kong and go back there a lot and Oxford holidays are loooong, and we spend a lot of time just sending messages to each other on Facebook. Our relationship basically began with us exchanging a series of long Facebook messages, so I will always be fond of books that explore that kinda thing!

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      Thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting! :D

      I really would love more long distance relationships. They're really interesting to read about because the dynamic of a relationship can be so different when it's long distance. I really wish there were more books about reincarnation as well but I feel like it's a hard thing to get right?

  6. YES, this is like a dream list!! Oh, and since you too like long distance/online based relationships, you might want to check out BTW I Love You by Nico Jaye. The characters are a bit older (college age), but I remember really liking this short (free) story. And Asian characters.... have you read Shadows on the Moon?
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      Oooh, okay, I will totally check out the short story! And no, I haven't read Shadows on the Moon but I've seen the author a lot on Twitter lately, though I hadn't thought to really look at the blurb and the reviews for Shadows on the Moon till now and it sounds like something I'd totally be into (aaaand it's a standalone)! I am definitely adding it to the TBR. Thanks for the rec! :D

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